she came out to me this week, Im relieved... as Im trying to figure out if I am... butI told a friend that my t came out to me...and she freaked ...told me that I was about to just off a cliff....very hard to deal with the negativeness with my friend....

thies is what she said

I feel like I need to be careful here but on the other
hand I am concerned about what is happening to you.
If I saw someone about to jump off a cliff, I would
scream. I know you are not jumping yet but you are
standing close. Go to the Bible and look up every
verse that speaks to sexual issues, please. A gay
church is going to only give you scriptures that match
their belief. I watched someone else go down this
path and they are barely functional at this point.

I know this will be really uncomfortable for you but I
feel I have to say it. From my point of view, it was
very unprofessional of her to talk about her personal
life. She may have crossed a line and that makes me
fearful for you, as well. She is your therapist not
your friend. She can be your friend to a point but
when it goes past that you run the risk of the
counseling not being therapeutic anymore.

I will keep you in my prayers and pray that you find
the truth. Love you Cheryl


hard to take

hey Violet,
What matters is between you and God. Every person has their opinion of the truth, but only God can show you the real truth. It is important that you discover what you believe for yourself. YOu won't feel settled until you settle in your own mind and heart what you really think God thinks about your sexuality. Many have been down this same road. We can tell you that God loves you and accepts you no matter what, but you must believe that for yourself. Remind yourself of what you have studied. The truth will set you free. I know it's tough when you get preached at. God is big enough to not fit in many people's mold for Him.
I read your other thread tonight and know you are really struggling with how you feel about your own sexuality. It seems you are judging yourself-maybe too harshly? it's OK to have feelings for the same sex. Just because you are attracted to someone doesn't mean you have to run out and jump in bed with them. Give yourself some breathing room. whatever issues you are working on, bring them to Jesus. Talk to Him about them. He can handle it, and He longs to be there for you. You need not fear Him.
hang in there, Violet. You are loved.

Violet, I want to respond to something your friend said, about your therapist being unprofessional by revealing something about her personal life. Although most of the time it is not good for a therapist to speak about her/his life, there are times that this is not only correct but necessary. In your case, I feel it was necessary to self-disclose because you saw her at the concert and asked her a direct question. If she had not told you, it might have damaged the trust you are building with her. So hang in there - we are all praying for you.
Ingrid

I had supected it for along time.... I askedd her once before... and we talked aobut it but she didnt answer and I accepted that.... but its been coming up ofand on for 2-3 yrs... (I had told her I didnt want to know.... she told me shed only tell me if I asked...Im not sure why she changed her mind.... although at this point.. I truely feel It was geting in the way of my therapy which is part of why I asked ... I couldnt work on my own issues....in less I took care of this... and I do trust her.....just wish I could get over my fears... and settle in my mind that its ok with God... and figure out what I am....whats it feel like to be bi?

I guess after reading all your posts, the reason I see red flags everywhere is because of all the contradictions, including you attending two colleges, Moody Bible, being one of them and the other, MSU, you say you are a graduate of.

What is so unbelievable is the spelling, typing skills doesn't appear to be the problem.

I noticed you are spreading out to other threads with the same or slightly altered misspelled story.

You say you are a widow, yet you weren't married.

I considered myself married....but no we were never actually married....spelling has never been my strong point...even worse when Im upset which I have been alot. what would you like to see from me? do you not trust my story? I am telling the truth....

Sorry to butt in, but I do think vrstruth deserves an explanation of hiseyes most recent comment (posted May 26, 11:58am). For one thing, I didn't realise that we were being assessed on our spelling abilities when we use this forum. It seems to me that vrstruth is using this forum in exactly the right way, to work through what sounds like a very confusing time. There are times when this forum seems like the only source of help- we've all been there.

Thankyou kathyf Im grateful for your comment

violet

Violet,
Go ahead and continue to post. Obviously you are going through a tough time right now. We don't have a spell check on this system, so we all must take some spelling errors in stride. I know PhDs that can't spell!

Let's all remember until we walk a mile in someone else's shoes, we don't know the whole story.

Most of us have struggled through a lot of things before finding this board. Let's make sure we are supporting and encouraging people and speaking in love. If Violet feels like she is a widow, it really doesn't harm any of us. I don't know what you call a person who lost their fiancee to death.